You’re looking for tips as a neurodivergent people pleaser? Well, hello there fellow need ignorer! Happy to see you here upon my post! I’ve written this just for you, believe it or not. I’ve compiled these suggestions from the clients I work with and my own experience. Ultimately I hope these help you find your way to claiming a little bit of space and getting your needs met.
Tip #1: You Need To Know What You Need
We can talk about all the reasons how people pleasing helps you. But, my neurodivergent people pleaser, can’t do much with it if you don’t know what you want to replace it instead. So the first thing you need to do is understand what it is you need. I love to recommend journaling, and have even written some prompts to help people pleasers explore their needs and motivations.
Neurodivergent People Pleasing Tip #2
My second tip is to find a space to retreat to. There are a few good reasons for this. You are likely an introvert, and need to take time to reflect and connect with yourself. Further you’ll need to find space and relax as you go through a lot of searching and change in your people pleasing.
This space could be anything: a coffee shop, a local park, you bedroom. If you are want to get closer to nature and learn how to connect with the world a different way, I’d suggest find a forest bathing guide. Being one myself, I’ve learned that any space that has any sort of nature/plant can be a place to retreat.
Tip #3: Find Day to Day Support
One of the most difficult things for a neurodivergent people pleaser trying to change is having the support they need on a regular basis. Finding someone to check in with, vent about their frustrations, and encouraging them to grow further. Finding a support person can be a key to unlocking a new life of claiming space.
Tip #4: Get a Good Therapist
I might be biased, but getting a good therapist is paramount in figuring out how your brain responds to other people. Therapy is a space that can help you sort out the chaos and confusing into controlled change. Not every therapist is made the same, though, so I suggest you do some research on how to find a good therapist. And if you are looking for a therapist that provides all four things I’ve talked about today, you don’t need to look any further.
I offer my clients a lot of writing to unlock their wisdom, stargazing with their soul in nature retreats, therapy that is frequent and convenient to start, all with the weekly support that is needed. It might sound to good to be true, but I built this with you in mind. Schedule a consultation if you are in Colorado or New Jersey so we can start your new journey. I’ll bring the snacks.